The day was shear madness!  I had finally had enough. Stress levels were through the roof and I felt like was on the brink of flipping my e v e r – l o v i n g – l i d. Then came the overwhelm. I just couldn’t take it anymore.   

At the time I was a good way through a big health initiative but in that moment, I could care less. My hand was on the fridge as I was ready to pitch it all by the wayside to cushion the borage of emotional blows with one massive bowl of pasta that’d been stashed, unintentionally, for just such a moment.  Because, you know…nothing really chases away the worries of a stressful day quite like a face full of carbs, right?

Almost. I almost went for it but then I didn’t. I didn’t because it was in that moment, just as that lovely refrigerator light started to break free from the door, I reminded myself that the food didn’t cause the problem and it wasn’t going to fix the problem. In fact, it was only going to make me feel worse when it was all said and done. The day had been bad enough. The last thing I needed was to end it in more defeat.

How many times I’ve heard women tell me they want to eat better and live more healthfully but they just don’t have the “willpower.”  If this is you, hear me loud and clear here – IT’S NOT ABOUT WILLPOWER.  Or, as I remember hearing some time back ago – “It’s about the food but it’s not about the food.

While there a number of factors that can come into play and things that can make some food cravings more intense than others, I think one of the biggest things we’re lacking isn’t willpower, it’s perspective.

When I hear the term “willpower” the image of arm wrestling comes to mind. Are we going to sit, pushing and pulling back and forth with it or do we gather enough sense to just walk away from the table?

Have you ever wondered why some people let themselves slip into alcoholism or drug addiction?   We rack our brains, perplexed at how anyone would consume or use something they know is going to destroy their bodies and wreak havoc in their families. Come on. I mean, we know that when someone starts using that stuff it’s not a matter of “if” but “when” it’s going to come back to bite them in the rear. The chances are VERY good that it will result in sickness and/or death.

Yet many do it every day with the food and beverages we bring into our homes and think so little of it. We’re killing ourselves slowly with a fork and calling it a delight. 

You may be thinking “whoa…that’s a bit harsh…” When you think about it, is it really?  Many physicians now agree that anywhere from 70-90% of all disease could be prevented or cured through proper diet and lifestyle choices. We know, for a fact, that processed, refined, and chemically treated foods damage the gut, harm the brain, raise blood pressure, and promote diabetes, heart disease and cancer. Yet, we look away thinkin we don’t have time to be bothered with it or we don’t think that we are capable of implementing a better plan because we think it would take too much of that “willpower” stuff we’re sure we don’t have enough of.

The problem has never been the willpower.  What we’ve really needed is some better perspective, better understanding and some personal responsibility in hopping to the helm and turning that ship around.

The most pivotal moments in my health have come on the other side of me changing my mind about the food I was eating and the way I was living. I’m still ever growing here as I learn new things. {I think we should ever strive to learn and grow!} 

I think a big one here, as we gain perspective, is redefining what we call food. 

You and your family are incredible and incredibly important. Your bodies have certain needs that should and must be met through the foods you eat.  

When someone says “I just don’t have enough willpower,” what they’re really getting at is that they’ve either not fully understood the implications of how their food choices impact their lives OR that they’re still not ready to commit to eating for purpose over pleasure.

When I say you should learn to eat for purpose over pleasure, understand that that doesn’t mean you have to relegate yourself to a lifetime of eating foods you hate.  As you place the purpose (you and your family living healthful, vibrant lives) at the forefront of your decision-making process, you’re going to see a lot of changes in how you want to eat. Your body will soon love being nurtured by all the healthful foods you’re eating and your palate will change.

When you learn to eat for purpose over pleasure, you will soon enough find great pleasure in the things that feed the purpose.

In no area of our lives are we called to place pleasure at the forefront of our decisions. That is not to say we should avoid anything we enjoy. That’s just to say that it shouldn’t be the leading factor. Think about it. When pleasure (especially immediate satisfaction) is priority number one, we can make some really dumb decisions that, quite often, we only regret later. Whether we spend too much on that stupid thingy-ma-bob that just looked so cool in the store or binge on cheesecake (or pasta), we have to recognize that placing pleasure front and center in our thinking and behavior is not freedom, its recklessness.

I think this is one area where some may take me as harsh or where I’m not always fully understood in how I think or how I pray for people. It truly breaks my heart to see people, especially Jesus-loving believers, run down with sickness and disease. It hurts to see them wrestle to understand why God would want them to be sick and carry these diseases when I don’t believe that’s the issue at all. For that, I can’t pray the same way I hear so many others pray. I would never seek to diminish or question the heartfelt prayers of my brothers and sisters. As we’re talking about here, I’m merely talking about a matter of perspective.

We have a measure of responsibility in our living. It may seem fanciful to pray “God, take away my cravings for bad foods.” But we have to be willing to step to the plate (or back from it) in an effort to live the ways we know we should.  There are many factors that can come into play; many variables that can add great weight to the struggle.  We absolutely need God’s help to navigate these waters as we set out on such a quest.  I truly believe that where it’s our hearts desire to live healthfully and to live a life that brings Him glory, He is absolutely 100% there to help. Still, we have our choices to make.

Are the choices you’re making today lining up with the things you’ve been seeking God for, or the things your heart has most deeply longed for, or are they working in opposition to them?

Perspective.

Open eyes.

Understanding.

How I pray God gives us them all.

I truly believe that incredible things are before you, but, I also believe that before many of us can take hold of those things, we have to be willing to take a step back and honestly evaluate how we’re living and what/Who we’re living for. 

Make up your mind and move forward.

Don’t ponder. Don’t pace. Can the “What if’s,” the “maybe’s,” and the notion that you somehow have to muster up the power to “wrestle down” those cravings/inclinations. Yes, there may be a struggle for a time but once your mind is made up, it’s just up to you to walk it out. Soon enough, it won’t even be an issue any more and you’ll be right back on track to changing the world.

So, how about it?  What are some things that have come into light lately for you and how are those things helping you to realign your life with how you’d really love to live?

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